The Examples our Leaders Set

“We warn that individuals who […] fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God.”

The Family: A Proclamation to the World


As a father, one of my goals has been to make sure my daughters have good role models. Aside from their caring and dutiful mother, I have many amazing examples within my ward. From their Sunday School teachers to the Relief Society President, there are several great examples of great mothers, obedient wives, and wonderful homemakers for my daughters to look up to.

As time goes on, it becomes more and more difficult to find great examples outside the ward and, indeed, outside the church. “Brother Walker,” you might say, “Why would you want to hold up someone outside the church as an example for your children?” Indeed, Ephesians warns us about this:

17 This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind,

18 Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:

19 Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness

– Ephesians 4:17-19

While there are indeed many good and honorable people in the world who have not yet heard the gospel, it’s far preferable to use church members as examples for our children – Priesthood holders for our sons, and the wives and mothers of priesthood holders for our daughters.

While we’re reinforcing role models who are faithful members of the church, we must also be watchful to ensure that our daughters don’t become enamored with the negative influences of the world.

Which brings us to Michelle Obama. There are several reasons not to trust the example she sets, not the least of which is her work outside the home, but the contrast between the two women shown above speaks to another reason not to use her as a role model:

40 And again, thou shalt not be proud in thy heart; let all thy garments be plain, and their beauty the beauty of the work of thine own hands;

– D&C 42:40

It’s clear just by looking at the image who the better example is for your daughters. One of these women is clearly a symbol of everything your daughters should aspire to be: an uplifting example of a modest, loving wife to a strong priesthood-holding husband, and a caring mother to her five priesthood-holding sons.

Personally, I can’t wait to call Ann Romney the First Lady, and finally have an example in the White House who I, as well as Heavenly Father, can approve of my daughters emulating.

About David Walker

David Walker is a Utah native and lifelong member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints who faithfully serves as the patriarch of his family and a leader in his ward.


  1. Jessica Hatch says:

    Thank you. As a mother, it’s so hard for me to come to terms with all the negative influences out there. It pains me to think about how hard it must be growing up as a young woman, when someone like Michelle Obama is praised and someone like Ann Romney is criticized. It can be confusing for our young daughters.

  2. When she gave that speech at the democrat convention, I was appalled by how unladylike her behavior was, to say nothing of her appearance.

    It’s concerning when you see the media fall all over themselves praising her for these things. Our nation is truly fallen. We are so blessed to have Brother Romney coming to the White House.

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